When I was drafting my presentation for Learning Solutions 2015, I added a section that I think is of relevance to most people, and if not…stay gold, pony boy. Anyhow, this section was related to letting go of fear, and I thought it might be appropriate to share my insight on this topic with a broader audience.
Fear will only hold you back, and you really need to just let it go. I know that’s easier to say than do, but it’s true! What do you have to lose? If you would have told me three years ago that I would be speaking in front of large audiences, many individuals of whom I respect and idolize, I would have told you that you were out of your friggin’ mind! I was the university student who would take zeroes whenever and oral presentation was required, but I’m slowly conquering that fear. People who know me are often surprised to find out I have a fear of public speaking, but it’s a fear that held me back when I was trying to grow my business.
My rationalization for being afraid of public speaking was that I was sharing my thoughts with a jury of my peers, and all I could think about was how judgmental they would be. This fear kept me from engaging in communities and from sharing my work, because what authority was I to be subjecting folks to my garbage? But that’s just it. My thoughts, and ideas, and samples, and interactions aren’t garbage. Sure, they might not always be the best, but someone will find the information of value. And really, you’re your own worst critic.
Once I began to let go of this fear, I was able to speak somewhat intelligently to individuals on topics I’m passionate about, and I was able to share my work, grow my portfolio, and grow as an e-learning professional.
Without being able to let go of fear, I would never have previously considered sharing silly glimpses into my ridiculous mind. You need to let go of fear to grow as an individual, and don’t sell your ridiculousness short – someone will appreciate it. I promise. It’s okay to open up feelings of vulnerability. We’re all vulnerable. But you don’t need to let that hold you back!
Well said! When i find myself hesitant of anything I always ask myself the the question: what would you do if you weren’t afraid? The answer is always simple and clear. It’s something that helps me get beyond that point of inactivity and into action. Hence me now preparing for a flight into Zürich, Switzerland whilst scared of flying… Nerve wrecking but I’m going to do it anyway!
Good stuff, Ashley! Definitely we all feel that imposter syndrome sometimes. Thank you for opening up about it and pushing through it!
Great post Ashley!
I was in the same boat as you. Being shy as a kid is cute, being shy as an adult is crippling. Six years ago, I made the decision to finally overcome my fears and I joined Toastmasters. By constantly talking in front of a roomful of supportive people and taking on leadership roles, I changed my outlook and calmed my fears. I do things now that a few years ago would have petrified me and I actually get excited at the prospect of sharing my knowledge and helping others.